John Norris chats with the “forever-irresistible” Jenny Lewis.
I just want to tell you, at some point it doesn’t matter who was right and who was wrong. At some point, being angry is just another bad habit, like smoking, and you keep poisoning yourself without thinking about it.
You’re very honest in your writing. Have you had to pay a price for that?
I have, but for the most part when you’re a writer and your friends are other songwriters as well, I think there’s an unspoken rule: you’re not allowed to say anything. You’re really not. Because we all write about each other and we have been for years. There are moments, sometimes, in my friends’ songs where I’m like, “Wait a minute. Is that about me? Am I that big of an asshole?” And then I’m not allowed to ask! The work exists on its own, and I think when you’re a songwriter you’re pulling from your own feelings but you’re also creating characters. The luxury of being able to put it off on something that isn’t true is necessary.
Just a reminder that you’re whole without someone else. You are not a fraction. You’re a complete master piece all by yourself and you do not need anyone else to validate your existence.
being an introvert is really hard because there is no polite way to tell someone that you’re in a bad mood because you’re exhausted from socializing.